Over the weekend, I ventured into a networking brunch and found myself sitting at the end of the table with a dynamic, brilliant, eloquent entrepreneur – I’ll call him Adam.
Typically, I find large brunches and networking events scary and uncomfortable, but this conversation was scintillating, and left me feeling high for some time.
More than anything, what struck me about Adam was his communication style. I left our conversation feeling as if I had been deeply understood
– a rare feeling, unfortunately.
On my way home, I asked myself what had created that outcome. With compliments to my new friend, I identified five behaviors that made Adam such a prolific communicator. Read More
Small fears keep us from great things. I think that’s what FDR meant when he said that “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”.
Why would you be afraid of fear?
Because teeny, tiny fears keep us living small, safe lives. That is a frightening prospect indeed.
If you doubt its truth in your own life, read on. Read More
Social interactions are challenging and potentially awkward for many reasons. Among these is uncertainty about the “right” way to act in different settings, a key source of social anxiety.
When we enter an interaction – say a business meeting – we know that some conventions hold true. At a business meeting we know that clothing is mandatory. Clothing might be optional at your house or in your bedroom, but not at a business meeting.
However, there are some social conventions we’re not sure about. In the case of this business meeting, we might ask ourselves: Do I need to wear a neck tie? Can I lean back in my chair and cross my legs? And most importantly, Is it okay to curse?
This void – the gap in our knowledge – is one of the reasons that social interactions can be stressful. It also reflects an opportunity to positively shape your environment and eliminate not only your own social anxiety but also that of others. Read More
We all want love and sex. But if you’re like me, you’re a bit jaded by past experience.
Five months ago, I fell for a girl who eventually turned me down. I wrote about the pain and how I turned the situation into a positive.
What I didn’t mention was how shocked and hurt I was by the way it ended: silence.
When did completely ignoring another human being – one you’ve spent considerable time with and invested in emotionally – become an acceptable behavior?
Generation Y’s love and relationships behavior has reached epidemic proportions. I’m tired of it, I’m opting out, and I’m inviting you to join me. Read More
Last Saturday, I put on my superhero costume and walked out the door into my superhero life. A life where I stood in front of a packed house of 100 people.
Underneath my superhero costume, I’m just a guy hustling his ass off trying to piece together a business: creating, shipping, sometimes-winning-sometimes-losing and learning as I go.
If you’re a cynic, you will call me a fraud. And you’d be right to do so. I’m not qualified for this.
But you’d also be wrong. Because there was nothing fake about this event. The content was real. The delivery was thoughtful and practiced. The people in those seats were human beings working to change their lives. Their yearning questions and stinging criticisms and earnest thank yous were all real.
The fact is that superheroes aren’t qualified to do what they do. They’re just hustlers that believe at their core in what they do and will stop at nothing to make it happen.
This is the potential of your life and it’s right in front of you. Read More
We all have areas of our lives where we feel stuck – where things are not going the way we want them to. Your boss is a dick and won’t give you a raise. Your company culture makes it impossible to have a balanced life. You can’t get a girlfriend to save your life. There’s not a single damn career path that motivates you. You can’t sleep at night. You can’t control your weight.
I get it – you’ve got problems, and you’ve tried to fix them, but that shit is seriously broken and there’s no easy answer.
I have good news: there’s a reason things aren’t going the way you want them to. The bad news is that the reason is probably you. Read More
Last week, I changed my flight back from France in order to attend the World Domination Summit in Portland, Oregon. Even though I didn’t have a ticket, I showed up and had probably the most pivotal experience of my career. (Read part one of this post.)
I was able to connect with over a dozen inspiring, transformational change-making entrepreneurs, people who are touching hundreds of thousands of lives every day. Win.
When you show up – when you have the guts or discipline to take action – you will create disproportionate results, even if you fuck up a few times in the process.
But as my last conference experience illustrated, everything can still go wrong when you show up. The truth is that how you show up – your presence – makes all the difference. Read More
I landed in Portland, Oregon late Friday night to crash the earth’s coolest conference, the World Domination Summit, hosted by blogger Chris Guillebeau and friends. From a distance, networking events like this one are all warm and fuzzy. But even at this most awesome of conferences, the reality is that networking can be awkward, difficult and exhausting.
This post is especially catered to what Guillebeau dubs “highly sensitive people” (HSPs), i.e. introverts, but it can help anyone to manage the mania of unstructured interactions with strangers. Read More
Stop waiting for permission to live your life. To do epic shit. To take a risk. To do something that your family, spouse and accountant says you shouldn’t. To quit. To start. To homeschool your kids while sailing around the world. To publish. To tell her you love her. To tell her you don’t love her. To say you’re sorry. To ask for what you want.
There are ALWAYS reasons to stay the course and wait for permission. Fuck the reasons. Reasons are a Trojan horse for excuses and fear.
Your life is ticking away one miraculous, fleeting breath at a time. When you wait for permission, you wait at your own peril. There is an alternative. As James Altucher says, you can “choose yourself.” Read More
“All the things that truly matter, beauty, love, creativity, joy and inner peace arise from beyond the mind.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
It’s a myth that some people are creative and others are not. Every human being on this planet is creative, even if that creativity is buried thirteen layers deep.
This matters because creativity can be a golden ticket. To job success and satisfaction. To financial wealth. To days and nights full of joy. To a great sex life.
Fortunately, your creative thinking ability is limitless. Your brain, as your creative engine, has around 100 billion neurons and at least several hundred trillion connections, which are what physically dictate how you think (1).
I’m no neuroscientist, but it seems clear that you are physically endowed with a miraculous piece of thinking equipment – even if you aren’t using it.
So what’s holding you back? Let’s break through some of the barriers. Read More